Monday I got some not so favourable news that kind of shook me up a bit. I had to take a few days to shake it off and get back on track with my goals (remember it’s okay to have a bad day but not a bad week).
This would also explain why I didn’t put out a post to the blog on Monday. I needed some time to process what happened, to detach myself from the negative feelings that threatened to completely take me over.
I couldn’t allow that to happen, not now. Not at the moment I’m so close to seeing my goals manifest. I had to keep a level head, and keep moving forward.
We’re all human and get down from time to time because of circumstances in our lives we have no control over. The important thing is knowing what to do to get back up when the fall comes.
I must admit it took me a bit longer to get over it than expected (around 48 hours). It’s not that I was depressed about what happened, it’s just that it rattled my emotional balance more than I expected it to.
The first thing I had to do was allow myself to feel the emotions I was feeling. What I mean by this is I was frustrated and anxious (maybe a bit annoyed). I couldn’t be in denial about how I felt. Burying it and pretend it didn’t bother me only would have made it worse, and probably manifest in something worse later on.
I had to embrace that this is how I felt. But also be conscious that I wasn’t going to stay in this disempowering state.
My brain unconsciously started thinking about ever possible way this incident could create a domino effect of other incidents. Incidentally, they could inevitably lead to ultimate failure (take note your brain will always make things seem worse than it really is).
I had to quickly get a grip of my emotions so they didn’t spiral out of control. I had to remind myself that it’s okay, it’s not the end of the world. I had to show myself the image of a better future on a larger scale, than what happened to me in a single moment.
Basically, what I was doing was disarming the power these negative emotions had over me, so that I could refocus on what’s important…getting the job done.
Next I took some time to calm myself, and reshift my focus away from the problem that was making me anxious. I did it one of the few ways I know works, binge watching Netflix ?.
There’s an entire psychology behind this, but I won’t bore you with that right now.
Next I focused on what’s important, the future, my future, and getting back to building it. This isn’t as easy as it sounds, especially if you have an unexpected crisis suddenly show up in your life.
How I handled this situation was two ways:
1. Think about why I’m doing the work I am, and why it’s important for me to complete it
2. Think about the consequence if I allowed one bad day to ruin my entire future
That did the trick.
That’s the process I used to handle a bad situation that unexpectedly came up. It took around 2 days (I needed an entire day for Netflix).
The reason I went though all of that is I didn’t want it to only be an entertaining story, but an educational one. Hopefully this isn’t just a rant about my life, but it can bring value and help you as well.
What Am I Grateful For About This Situation?
The situation shook me up more than expected, but I’m grateful I’m at a point in my personal growth now where I not only am conscious enough of my thoughts and emotions to know when they may be out of control, but more importantly I know what to do to get back to an empowering state when it happens.
What Did I Learn From This Situation?
It was more a reminder that negative situations will arise in life, and though I may have a bad day, I should never allow it to turn into a bad week.
How Can I Use This In The Future To Become Better?
The improvement process is never ending. The best I can do is focus on being more present and aware of my thoughts and emotions, and learn more efficient skillsets to counter them when it happens. Also, be able to teach others how to do the same.
Follow my journey as I document everything on my Journey 2 Mastery™ as it unfolds.
Read my last entry on when you want to quit.
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